Question #1 What is the purpose of a funeral?
Answer: Death is inevitable whether we like it or not. Throughout history people of all cultures have chosen to care for their dead in a way that brings honor to the deceased. A funeral ceremony is not only a time of reverence for the dead, but a time of respect and sympathy for those left grieving the loss of a loved one. The funeral ceremony brings about closure and a sense of reality for those surviving.
Question #2 What are the benefits of choosing a family-owned and operated funeral home?
Answer: The Burpee, Carpenter & Hutchins Funeral Home has been a part of the Rockland community since 1830. Over the years, we have developed a reputation for personal attention, a caring attitude, and a professional approach for those needing funeral services.
Because we are privately owned, our focus is YOU. We are not distracted nor bound by corporate mandates. We take pride in serving those we share our community with. Our hope is to not only fill your current needs, but to build a long-term, committed relationship with you.
Question #3 How much does a funeral cost?
Answer: Funeral expenses can vary greatly. Personal requirements and preferences can make the final cost higher or lower than average. The total cost of a funeral is determined by adding together the desired services with the merchandise selected and factoring any prearranged options. To obtain a price list of our services and merchandise, please contact us.
Question #4 What is involved in a funeral arrangement conference?
Answer: An arrangement conference is a time when family members meet with a funeral director to discuss available options. A licensed funeral director will be able to counsel families regarding legal requirements or unique circumstances involved in the arrangements. This may include any or all of the following points:
Question #5 What can be done to create a meaningful funeral?
Answer: Whether you choose cremation or burial, many possibilities exist to make a funeral as memorable as possible. Dr. Alan Wolfelt has said that a funeral service should meet the unique needs and wants of your family. Your friends and family members may desire to participate in the service. Photographs, special readings, music selections and any other memorabilia may be incorporated to make the service special. Please consult one of our staff members if you would like suggestions for ways that will best pay tribute to your loved one.
Question #6 Is embalming required?
Answer: The state of Maine does not require embalming. However, embalming may be required or necessary in order to carry out certain funeral services selected by the family.
Question #7 What exactly is involved with cremation?
Answer: The state of Maine requires a 48-hour waiting period before the cremation process can take place. During this time, we must care for the body and obtain the necessary paperwork. Once things are in order, the body is placed in a cremation container or casket and transported to a crematory, where the body is broken down into its original elements by the application of intense heat. Upon the completion of this process, the cremated remains are placed in a secondary container and transported to us for final disposition.
Question #8 Should a child attend a viewing or funeral?
Answer: It is a common misconception that children should be shielded from the viewing, funeral and burial services when a friend or loved one dies. Clinical psychologist Lyn Sontag insists that "children should be included appropriately in all family grieving rituals. Funeral rites are for the living to process the death and say good-bye. For kids to be shut out is wrong and potentially damaging."
Excluding your child from the funeral can make him feel that he is not a real part of the family, and that his feelings about the death don't count or are wrong. If he is included he is given the opportunity to grieve and being to let go. The key to making funeral services a positive, meaningful, and healing experience is preparation and explanation.
Describe to your child what the funeral home looks like, what will happen there. Explain the body of the deceased person will be here in a special box called a casket. Be sure to prepare your child for the appearance of the body. The body will be very still, not breathing, because it isn't working anymore. Don't insist that your child touch or kiss the body, but allow it if they ask. Remind them that the body will be firm and cold to the touch.
It can be a good idea to arrange for an adult to look after your child - someone who is not immediately involved in the funeral and is understanding of kid's needs. The child may need to take a break or walk if he becomes overwhelmed, tired or distracted.
Some children may want to place good-bye mementoes in the casket before it is closed. This is a healthy way of keeping a sense of love and connection.
Above all, remember that you are not expected to have all the answers. Some - times it s ok to tell your child, "I don t know." Being honest and open with your child will aid the healing process for you both.
Question #9 What if I move after making funeral arrangements?
Answer: First of all, preplanning does not have to mean prepaid. Pre-paying a funeral is an option, but not required. Pre-arranging your services enables your true wishes to be fulfilled by granting you enough time to take care of every detail. It also alleviates the burden of making important decisions at the time of a loved one's death.
Question #10 What if death occurs away from home?
Answer: Death is never easy, but the situation grows more complex when death occurs away from home. Contact with us should be made immediately. At this point, we will contact a funeral home that will assist you at that location. From there, we will work with that funeral home to make the necessary arrangements for transporting the body to us. Upon receiving the remains, the funeral services of your choice will then be carried out.
Question #11 Is payment by credit card accepted?
Answer: Yes, we honor payment by credit card. We accept Visa and Mastercard, we do not accept American Express or Discover/Novus.